Ziggy Thunder: Transportation has made us LAZY!!! Get Healthy by Simply WALKING! Take the Bev Knox 30 Day Walk Challenge.

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I’ve had a car since my senior year in high school (I’ve had a few others since then).  I was a little spoiled, you could say!  I remember thinking that I was so independent.  I didn’t have to worry about getting rides from anyone or having to catch the bus. Getting that car was the most convenient and perfect thing ever, but it also made me a lazy human being!  Read on…

Walking to the store around the corner didn’t happen. Walking to my friend’s house a few blocks away, didn’t happen. Walking to the beach a few blocks away, didn’t happen.   I would find the first parking closest to the handicap spots at Walmart so I can get in and out quickly.

A few months ago, Bev gave me this assignment on blogging about health and eating and being healthy. She told me about her 30 Day Walk Challenge to encourage healthy living.  She challenged me to give up my car for one month. So I did. Yes ladies!  I was car-less for a whole damn month!  This was one of the hardest things I ever had to do.  I also had to change my eating habits (which I talked about in another article). But lets get back to being car-less.

Even though I had no means of personal transportation, I didn’t let that stop me from living my life!  I began walking literally everywhere!  I walked to the store and back, to my friends house and back, and to the beach whenever I chose!  Life was still moving, and so were my legs….a whole lot more!

What I’ve noticed though as I didn’t have my car was that my body was getting a little more fit!  My legs were at first really sore because I really wasn’t used to walking, but as I kept doing it I started to build resistance. And before I knew it, I had mastered the art of walking!  Yes, the is an art to walking.  Did you know that you can create a certain rhythm when you walk.  Yes, you can! Make sure to make you rhythm a sexy one.  Anyway, walking really is not that big of a deal… you’re still getting where you have to go, it’s just taking a little longer.

Ok, so a month has gone by… and I have completed Bev’s challenge!  Now that I have use of my car again, I try by any means to still stay active and walk!  My best friend lives literally two blocks away from me.  And prior to this challenge, I would drive to see her, but now I walk. Yeah Ziggy!  Also, that ten minute walk to the beach, feels so much better than driving to the beach.

My advice to you is this… Get out of the car, enjoy the fresh air!  Be in touch with yourself and nature. Walking not only gets your heart and blood flowing, but also gives you a chance to get your thoughts together.  Think about it, when you jump in your car, what’s the first thing you do?  You blast that music and tune everything out! You’re not thinking about anything else except the next words to your favorite turn up song!

When are you going to think about that midterm that’s due, or your latest relationship drama and how you’re going to handle that! Exactly, you’ve left yourself with no time to get to thinking! Taking a walk actually gives you time to get your mind right, get your body feeling a little burn, and also SAVE SOME GAS!

Did you really need to drive the four blocks to the bank, no! You could have walked and handled your business. Trust me ladies, if you want to have a little extra gas in your tank AND be a little more fit, why not take the walk!? Yes, take Bev’s 30 day get walking challenge.  Do yourself a favor and get fit! You’ll thank YOURSELF later.

Until next time ladies, Stay beautiful. Stay positive. Stay YOU!

–Ziggy

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Ziggy Thunder: Trying to Loose Weight & Be More Healthy? Then Stop Your Old Eating Habits! No More Midnight Pasta Feasts! Be FABULOUS Inside & Out!

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What kind of food makes you happy?!  What is your comfort food, your period food, your quick on the run food, your favorite desert!?  Believe it or not, a lot of the food we eat is really bad for us.  But we wouldn’t know, because it’s freaking DELISH!

Why give up the chance to have a yummy and fattening dinner for the chance to be even a little more healthy?   Why I ask, why?  It’s just one dinner?  Perhaps both you and I know that one may very well turn into two, three, seventy eight….. and so on.  Bev always says, to be truly FABULOUS, you have to do so both on the outside and the inside.  So that includes what we stuff our face with. Trust me ladies, you would love the feeling if you made a few food switches a day!

First of all, you have to think about what you eat the most.  Yes, lets take inventory.  Are you a junk food kinda gal? Is chocolate your weakness?!  What about your midnight pasta festival you have with you, yourself, and you. Girl, we’ve all been there.  For me, it’s Oreos! I’m literally obsessed!  I love eating them late at night before bed, especially! And that’s the worst!  I also like brownies, but every time I eat one my face breaks out the very next day!

Lets just get to the point… There are so many ways to start eating healthier!  For starters, stop eating out so much!  Why do you need to go to iHop and get a breakfast slam when you can make that exact meal (with less calories and more veggies) at home?!  Think about it… home cooked meals taste WAY better!  Why get that wrap in the mall for lunch when you can make your own and prepare it just how you like!?  So, bag your lunch.  Plus, think about all the damn money you would save!

Do you know what the number one issue is when it comes to eating and drinking healthy!?  DRINKING WATER! I’m sure you wake up and want a coffee, then have a soda with your lunch, and maybe a glass of wine with your dinner.  If you replace ALL that with a glass of water or two, you’re already fighting half the battle. Seriously, there are so many health benefits to drinking water (plus its good for your skin).  Believe me, it’s not even that bad! Try adding a slice of lemon in your to-go bottle of water for added flavor if needed.

Replacing your favorite fatty snack with a healthier option would be smart, too!  If you have cookies and chips in your cabinet, replace them with carrots and celery, grapes, etc. When you reach for those chips, they won’t be there (because you STOPPED buying them).  Instead, eat some carrots and let that fill you up.  Problem solved, healthy snack eaten! Perfecto!

Being healthy isn’t even that hard, and there are a bunch of benefits to it as well.. Give this a thought, when you eat a McDonalds McDouble, how do your mouth taste afterwards?!  Like shit, I know!  I know because mine usually do too. It’s not fun, and then you end up having a belly ache, the runs, heartburn or a combination of all of the above! Why put yourself through that?

Now think about eating a nice home cooked meal, a grilled chicken wrap or salad, with loads of fresh veggies and fruits.  It probably will leave you feeling full of life and more energized.  What you eat really has a big part in how you feel during the day… and in return, how your day plays out!  Remember, you have to be FABULOUS, inside and out.  Trust me ladies, you’ll thank me later. You’re welcome!

Until next time ladies, Stay beautiful. Stay positive. Stay YOU!

–Ziggy

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The End of Beyonce and Jay Z? The Craziest Claims From the New York Post’s Hit Piece

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The New York Post claims (again) that music’s First Couple, Beyoncé and Jay Z, are no longer crazy in love and about to split up. Here are the biggest reveals from their doozy of a story.  READ More Here…

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Ziggy Thunder: What’s Your Personal Appearance Saying About YOU?! Sad, Depressed, Dirty, Don’t Care, Sexy, Confident, FABULOUS?!

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What’s Your Personal Appearance Saying About YOU?!  What are you wearing right now and how does it affect your mood today?  Are you wearing your new pumps that you bought “just because” and feeling like you’re on top of the world?  Or are you wearing your exs sweatpants from three years ago and a tank top, because you just don’t feel like getting dressed?

What’s Your Personal Appearance Saying About YOU?!  Are you feeling blah because you’re hair needs to be colored, your makeup doesn’t make you feel pretty, and your clothes don’t make you feel confident?  Sounds like you need a lesson, or two, or seven, from Bev!

Listen here, I’m not the girl to be telling you that looks are all that matters!  Because that’s not true at all!  Looks are NOT everything, but let’s be totally real… they ARE important!  YOUR Personal Appearance is a big deal because your first impression to the world says everything about you.  Before you even open your mouth, you’re judged on how you look.

When you wake up every morning, you should want to feel your best!   And if that means doing a little extra….something…in your life, than do so!  You won’t know the true definition of being happy until you are literally just that, happy!  And feeling good and confident in yourself is definitely important when it comes to living a full and happy life.  I’m not here to quote scientific research to you, I will leave it up to Bev to do that.  But I am here to give you everyday real life facts.   People judge you on how YOU LOOK!  Period! So I ask again, What’s Your Personal Appearance Saying About YOU?!

Do a little something extra by registering for Bev Knox Personal Image Boot Camp! Ladies, you wont regret taking this online course! Trust me, you know I’m very rarely wrong! Feeling good and looking good all play into the circle of a well balanced diva’s life. If you don’t look your best, you wont feel your best, and in return won’t do your best… live up to your fullest potential! Start somewhere ladies, start with this class!

Are you the bold fashionista who clearly doesn’t give a rats ass, or are you that shy fly on the wall who just dresses to get by and be unnoticed by the world?  What’s Your Personal Appearance Saying About YOU?! Regardless of your current style right now, we could all use a little help here and there in our personal image world… and Bev is definitely a good teacher to learn from!

Bev Knox Personal Image Boot Camp is beneficial in so many ways!  If you’re already confident in your style and look, there’s no reason why you can’t get a few more tips! You can never have too much knowledge, we don’t know it ALL! And if you’re one of the style/fashion challenged ladies out there, there’s plenty of helpful tips and solutions to your problem right here in this online course.   Oh yeah, did I mention that this course was 100% Online. Yeah, I said it… Bev Knox Video Lectures are 100% Online!  Trust me…. You will thank me later! You’re welcome!

Until next time ladies, Stay beautiful. Stay positive. Stay YOU!

–Ziggy

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Ziggy Thunder: Love Triangles Madness! Cheating, Friendships & Betrayals.. Rihanna, Drake & Chris Brown!

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When I was in high school, this really cute boy asked me on a date… and not just like a hang at McDonald’s after school kinda date, but a real date.  One that involved coming to my house and asking my father if he could take me out, and a cute walk on the beach followed by a romantic horse ride after.   I kid you not, I was in a carriage pulled by two horses being envied by every girl on that beach! The night ended perfectly with one simple good night kiss, and a text telling me he was home safe… which lead into more hours of conversation! It was so romantic and perfect, I didn’t even know dates like that existed anymore.  I didn’t even know they were real in the first place.

A few days later, I was on Facebook and one of my friends was telling me that this girl was calling me a whore for kissing her boyfriend!  Her boyfriend just so happened to be the guy I went on this amazing date with!  And of course, I had no idea that he was taken!   Me and the girl fought it out via social network, calling each other every name in the book!

Eventually, after all that verbal whip-lashing, we came to the conclusion that we were attacking the wrong person!  WHY on earth were we fighting each other when the real culprit was THE BOY!   The idiot who tried to play both of us!   We came to a truce and ended up becoming friends… both vowing from that day on that we would NEVER give that douche bag the time of day, ever again…

Sometimes, when awkward love triangles happen, the weirdest two out of three end up friends!  This happens all the time, to be honest! Actually, I heard that Drake and Chris Brown (who is still an ass for what he did to RiRi) are making a song together. Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?!?!  Are you shitting me?   Last time I checked they needed a restraining order to even function in the same universe together.

Back in 2012 Chris and Drake banged it out, over Rihanna of course.. and I thought they would NEVER be in the same place, let alone work together!  Apparently Drake and Rihanna broke up, and she moved on already… so why not move on himself and make dope music with a dope artist!  You go, Drake!

It’s weird, becoming friends with someone that you could NEVER see yourself being cool with. Someone that has had a relationship with someone you once loved. A bitter rival. But are they really friends?  Did they get together to make music, money, or just to piss Rihanna off?  But again, in the music industry, and in regular life, you never know when you could use someone. So it’s always important to throw stuff under the bus whenever you can!

Sometimes friendships and relationships are not able to be fixed, but the ones that you can should def be worked on! Because look at this, both these gorgeous and talented men are over RiRi and onto something new and exciting!!!  I would be looking at it as making more money, not spending it on a dumb broad! (just kidding RiRi, LOVE YOU!!!!)

Until next time ladies, Stay beautiful. Stay positive. Stay YOU!

–Ziggy

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Ziggy Thunder: Top 5 Things GROWN Women should NEVER WEAR!

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I am all for GROWN women feeling FABULOUS and looking however they want! If you want to be simple and basic, go for it! If you want to stand out and let people know you don’t give a rats ass, more power to ya! If you’re just wearing sweats every day for the hell of it, whatever floats your boat!   But there are a few things us GROWN women should NEVER wear!  Keep reading and learn a thing or two!

1.  PANTY LINES: Don’t even get me started on this! This is my biggest pet peeve! You are a grown woman!   What are you doing with freaking panty lines showing through your leggins, jeggins, or jeans! That’s a HUGE no no! You are grown enough to wear a thong, so do so! There’s a reason why thongs were created, so use em!   Grow up, panty lines are so NEVER!

2. Tiny Short Shorts: I’m still young enough, so this doesn’t apply to me! I wear short shorts almost every day! But if you’re grown ass woman, and you are a mom/business woman/real life adult, you have NO reason wearing booty shorts. Grow up!   Put on some sexy stylish age appropriate shorts on. You had your chance to live promiscuously, and that time is over!

3.  Pants with Words Displayed on the Booty: I don’t even wear these, I don’t think I ever did! Little girls with pants that have words written on the booty are NOT cute… so mature ladies wearing shorts with “Party Girl” on the butt is by far the most unattractive thing ever! Don’t be one of those girls! Save that for the teeny boppers!

4.  Metallic Liquid Leggins: Maybe you rocked some skin tight leggins back in the day, like in the 80’s… and you probably looked smoking in them! But even if you have a bedroom body, there are some fashion trends that need to be left in the past. This is definitely one of them!

5. TUBE TOPS: This is more of a chest size argument, in my opinion.   If you’re a decent cup size (C and above) and you’re wearing an appropriate halter dress, I don’t see anything wrong with that! But if you’re trying to rock a tube top with some skinny jeans and heels, let’s get this straight.   You’re NOT a “youngin” anymore, stop trying to act like it.

Bottom line, there are just some things that are NOT appropriate for GROWN women to wear.  We are all grown, and as grown women we have to act like grown women, and leave the childish attire to the children!  Like Bev always says, you can be sexy ate any age (over 18), but there is a difference between sexy appropriate and stank!  Live your FABULOUS life at the age you are currently.  Embrace it!  There’s nothing wrong with being in your twenties, thirties, forties, fifties, sixties and above!  You’re beautiful at your age!  Dress Appropriately! Embrace it!

Until next time ladies, Stay beautiful. Stay positive. Stay YOU!

–Ziggy

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Ziggy Thunder: What’s a Girl to Do… When Her New HOT Boyfriend is a MAMA’S BOY!?!

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I had this friend, and she was the bomb! I mean she was beautiful, sexy, smart, a perfect 10!  She dated only top line men, and they treated her like the queen she knew she was!

But for some reason these men never lasted for more than a few weeks.  Why you may ask?  Well, it was always for something dumb!  They were either workaholics, alcoholics, commitment phobaholics, debtaholics, or lack personality… it was always something that left her single yet again within a few weeks!

But there was this one guy, he was literally every woman’s DREAM man.  And within a few days, he instantly became HER man! He was totally gor (gorgeous), loaded, and a real sweetheart!  We couldn’t find anything wrong with him!  He wasn’t a crook, wasn’t a womanizing man-whore cheater, and he wasn’t abusive! Why was he still single and not married with seventeen kids?! What was wrong with him?!

I’ll tell you what, he was a damn MAMA’S BOY!  And a big one at that! It was disgusting.  I was shocked when my girlfriend told me. She was going up to her new boos upscale apartment for the first time, so she knew she had to look her best! She had on her sexiest outfit, accompanied by her even sexier lingerie.  She was ready to spend the night with her man.  But when she went upstairs, she was in for a rude awakening.  She walked into a house with a distinct smell, home cooked meals.

At first she was confused, what wealthy and gorgeous bachelor pad smelled liked home cooked meals and not Black Ice car air fresheners.  Within minutes, an older woman appeared from what was believed to be the kitchen.  With her apron on and a mixing bowl in her hands.

My friend could not believe it!  That’s what was wrong with him, he lived with his mama! Not only was he shacking up with the woman who gave him life, but he was completely obsessed with her!  After introductions and small talk, he lead her upstairs and started to put some moves on her. But within five minutes of being alone, his mother was calling him downstairs..

Some time went by and he was no where to be found!  Not wanting to be awkward, she waited in his room for what felt like hours more.   When she finally got the courage to get up and walk out, she met her new man and his mother in the kitchen.. together.. drinking tea and talking!  What the HELL!!! LOL!  I would be so mad.  I can’t do a mama’s boy.  I would not be able to handle it!

If your new man-candy is a mama’s boy, you can go about it one of two ways:  1) You can try and make yourself relevant in their lives.  It will be hard, but if he is important enough to you, then you will figure out a way to get him to balance out both you and his mama.   2) But if there’s no hope in this relationship because their bond is unbreakably strong.. I have one piece of advice: RUN in the other direction. You’ll thank me later. You’re welcome!

Until next time ladies, Stay beautiful. Stay positive. Stay YOU!

–Ziggy

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Meditate Away the Toxic Haters! Get Rid of Them Physically, Mentally & Emotionally!

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With meditation there is no such thing as doing it “right” or doing it “wrong.” Meditation is like walking. It is a process. We begin to walk by crawling until one day, if we choose to, we run. We begin to meditate by simply breathing until one day, if we choose to, we fly. As for having enough time, you can choose to meditate for one minute a day if that is all the time you have. It will still have it’s effects on your Body, Mind and Spirit. Whatever the amount of time that you give, your meditative practice will assist you in achieving balance in your life.

Meditation will help to purge your body, mind and spirit of the toxicity of hateration. There are all types of meditative techniques that one may use. At the core of each is simple stillness, awareness and peace. You are encouraged to use the simple meditation provided here to begin. Then continue or enhance your journey from hateration to the illumination of meditation.

Sit alone in a quiet place where hopefully you will not be disturbed. For some who are busy with husbands, children and such, this may be somewhat of a challenge. However, you can still find the time to complete this exercise. Even if you are the mother of a brand new screaming, hollering, non-stop eating, diaper-destroying little angel, you can still find the time to complete this exercise. One minute per day is all you need to start. Give yourself permission to steal a few moments for YOUR Most FABULOUS SELF!

Whether in bed or on a bathroom break, you must take that first minute to set the meditation in motion to balance out the hateration. This is vital.   Close your eyes. Breath deeply. Fill your lungs with a cleansing breath of air. Empty your lungs. Notice the little sensations in the Body. Just notice them without judgment and without concern. As you begin to settle internally, set the intention in your mind to clear your mind. Clear your mind of noise, distraction, internal dialogue and worry. Remember, bodily itches and aches and mental rubbage will crop up as you go into your meditation.

Setting your intention on stillness causes the Body and the Mind unaccustomed to this intention to rebel a bit at first. Just be aware. Being forewarned will make you more mindful of them when they appear. You may indeed just look and breathe right pass them. Your intention is set. Now proceed. You may begin to notice thoughts or images floating up into your mind’s eye. That’s just what they do. It is natural. This happens to many of us as soon as we set the intention to clear our minds. Do not let that bother you. It is a perfectly natural part of the process.

Continue your breathing. See the thoughts or images as they parade onto the stage of your mind’s eye and allow them to march right off or fade away. Your focus is your breathing rather than these extraneous thoughts and images. If it helps you, imagine a glass jar beside you. Visualize yourself placing these thoughts in your glass jar as they emerge and see yourself placing a lid on the jar. After your meditation you may go back to your jar, open it, spill out all of your thoughts and important matters. At that time, you may give them your full attention.

You may soon discover that a by-product of your meditative practice is the ability to go through your life’s problems, conundrums and situations with more clarity and efficacy. For now, however, bring your mind and attention back to your breathing. Be as loving with yourself during this process as you are with a friend, loved one or child when you are teaching or guiding them in something new. Have patience with your thoughts and your mind as you go. It is not a race. The destination is the journey.

The journey is the destination. You are merely training yourself. You are training your mind. You are training your mind in a way that will keep it free from the distractions, whims and various energies of others and sometimes even of yourself. Your mind is learning to focus on doing one thing at one time. This is optimal. This enhances your ability to live effectively and authentically in the world. So once more, be loving and patient with yourself as you would be with a young child whom you are teaching to sit still.

You know it takes time and repetition to calm “the wiggles” in a child just as it takes time, repetition and patience to calm the restless mind. So notice the little “wiggles” of your mind and go back to your awareness of your breathing. See How the Mind Can Set YOU FREE. The magic of this is that it’s simplicity allows you to do at any time. As you begin to collect the wonderful gifts for your body, your mind and your spirit, you will choose on your own what amount of time to give it. It may even vary from time to time. Each person’s style and mode of meditating is as unique as each person who practices it. It is a lot like praying. While prayer is more of talking to God the Creator, meditation may be viewed as listening to God.

You are encouraged to practice this simple meditation within your own comfort zone. Remember to keep your envisioned glass jar handy for the extraneous thoughts that may come up as you intend to focus only on your breathing. The benefits of this practice are many. Meditation has been proven to lower blood pressure, strengthen the immune system and it just brings about an increased sense of calm and well being. Meditation allows authentic adoration and love for yourself and for others as well.

YOUR Most FABULOUS SELF will enjoy the natural state of good health, peace of mind and spiritual well being. From this day forward, whenever you see a woman who is beautiful, intelligent, talented, carefree, and headstrong, in whatever situation, even on the arm of a gorgeous man. Affirm love… —never hate. Bless that woman and yourself by quietly saying, “Bless you and God who made us… Be happy as I AM happy.”

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Ziggy Thunder: Renew Your Mind Daily & Leave Yesterday’s Bulls$@% in the Past! Today is the Beginning of the Rest of YOUR Life!

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Hey ladies!!  Welcome back to my blog!  Today I want to talk about renewing your mind EVERY DAY and starting fresh and positive each morning! 

Tomorrow morning, say this as soon as you wake up… “Today is the beginning of the rest of my life!”  This statement is really true… you have the rest of your life to live every day exactly how you want too!  Yesterdays shit is just that… yesterdays shit.  Today isn’t yesterday!  And tomorrow won’t be today!  Simple as that.

Sometimes we start our day still dealing with yesterdays bullshit.  If you think you’re going to be stressing over something the next day after it happened, nip it in the butt ASAP!  Go to bed with a clean slate EVERY night, that way when you wake up in the morning it can be all about YOU!  You are important, not that stupid Facebook status your ex posted yesterday afternoon!

Today is the beginning of the rest of YOUR life…. Not your friends, not your momma, and not your dog (okay, technically it’s the beginning of their life too, but you know what i mean!)!!  Focus on YOU!  Start your day how YOU want too!  You are a fabulous single diva, there shouldn’t be any other care in the world besides taking care of yourself!

Renewing your mind daily allows you to refresh your mind and make sure you’re staying on track!  Stay positive.  Be productive!  Do what makes you happy.  It’s YOUR life, your day, your way!  Simple as that!  If you wake up each day mainly focusing on what you need to get done in order to move up and stay happy, you will be all set girl!  I’m telling ya!

I want to go back to avoiding waking up to yesterdays bullshit… Try this exercise:  When you go to bed each night, wipe your slate CLEAN! Get rid of any apologizes you need to let out, vent to your friends, bitch to your man!  Do it all before you hit the sack.  Because if you don’t, you’re going to think about it while falling asleep.  And you know what Bev always say, “NEVER go to bed angry!” 

It’s pretty simple guys, you can feel wonderful every day by just renewing your mind, body, and spirit each day!  Today is a new day.  Tomorrow is a brand new day!  And the day after that is even newer!  Trust me ladies, when you free your mind and renew your spirit, you feel a hundred times better!  Try this exercise and Register for Bev’s Wellness Boot Camp, you wont be sorry!  You’re welcome!

Until next time ladies, Stay beautiful. Stay positive. Stay YOU!

–Ziggy

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Ziggy Thunder: How to Identify Your Ideal Man! Bev Says to Date Yourself First! Learn How…

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Okay ladies, let’s face it… We don’t like to admit that we don’t have a type, but in reality WE DO!  I know my type… Dreads, piercings and maybe gauges, tattoos all over!  My type of man-candy for sure!

I also need a man who can handle my independent attitude, and my sarcasm and sense of humor.  If I can walk all over you, it’s not going to work!  I need a man who can baby me up and put me in my place when needed.  I used to be one of those girls that said “I don’t have a type.”  But that was before I truly knew myself and accepted myself for who I am and what I just so happen to like. 

I now know what I want and don’t want in a relationship as well as regular friendships.  Once you know who you are within, you will know what kind of relationship you’re ready for and what it is exactly that you want/need from somebody else.

Bev says in her lectures that you should practice dating yourself!  No seriously, it works. Take yourself on a couple dates!  Hit up that new restaurant you’ve been dying to try.  Or go for a nice relaxing walk on the beach to clear your mind!  Go see an 11am movie that you’ve wanted to see for weeks!  Do anything that’s normally done in pairs…

As you’re doing these cool activities on your own, observe yourself.  Are you the one who cracks up hysterically in the movies, or are you the silent laugh to yourself type?  You may think I’m being silly, but trust me… You won’t be thinking it’s silly when you know you’re a quiet laughter going on a date with Mr. Loudmouth over there, you now know how to avoid embarrassment.

I learned how to date myself by simply doing the things I would normally do on a two people date, but alone.  Me not having anyone to go to dinner with or to see a movie isn’t going to stop me from doing what I like to do.  I like to go out. I like to have fun!  Besides, if I don’t do these things by myself, how am I going to introduce someone onto my new hobby or habit in the future!?  Exactly. You gotta be happy with yourself before you’re happy with someone else.

Another great way to figure out who you’re future lover is going to be is really simple: DONT THINK TOO FAR AHEAD!!!  Once you establish that you are attracted to someone, give them a chance!  Keep up with that conversation, show your interest!  Don’t throw the “I’m into you, be my boyfriend!” voice.. Just talk to them like a regular human.  You might not land a hot boyfriend, but everyone needs friends to hit up for a coffee run or quick lunch!  Don’t be so quick to throw new relationships out!

Whether you’re new to the dating world, or you’ve been around the block a few times… My biggest piece of advice is you cannot be happy with someone else if you’re not happy with yourself.  Get to know yourself, and love yourself! Someone great might come along in the process.  And also, learn how to identify your ideal mate.  Take a look at Bev’s online lectures, giving you step by step instructions on doing just that.  Trust me ladies, you’ll thank me later!

Until next time ladies, Stay beautiful. Stay positive. Stay YOU!

–Ziggy

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